Supporting Parents or Partners with loved ones experiencing ADHD/ Autistic Spectrum/Aspergers/ASD/ASC. A compassionate view of difference.

Reacting to the possibility or diagnosis of a person we care for can affect each of us differently. For some, it may come as a shock, for others a confirmation of a creeping suspicion. Feelings of confusion, anger, sadness or guilt can loom heavily. Counselling can give you the opportunity to speak confidentially and without judgement about the thoughts that come up.

There are helpful UK sites to access further information. The National Autism Society and ADHDUK are a place to start. I came across a touching poem written by Andrea Chesterman-Smith called Take my hand, which I share with clients as it puts the reader in the shoes of a person with ADHD who they are trying their best to navigate a world with a different operating system to others. Equally deserving of love and understanding.

Take my hand written by Andrea Chesterman-Smith

Take my hand and come with me, I want to teach you about ADHD.

I need you to know, I want to explain, I have a very different brain.

Sights, sounds and thoughts collide. What to do first?  I can’t decide.

Please understand I’m not to blame, I just can’t process things the same.

Take my hand and walk with me, Let me show you about ADHD.

I try to behave, I want to be good, But I sometimes forget to do as I should.

Walk with me and wear my shoes, You’ll see it’s not the way I’d choose.

I do know what I’m supposed to do, But my brain is slow getting the message through.

Take my hand and talk with me, I want to tell you about ADHD.

I rarely think before I talk, I often run when I should walk.

It’s hard to get my (School) work done, My thoughts are outside having fun.

I never know just where to start, I think with my feelings and see with my heart.


ake my hand and stand by me, I need you to know about ADHD.

It’s hard to explain but I want you to know, I can’t help letting my feelings show.

Sometimes I’m angry, jealous, or sad. I feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and mad.

I can’t concentrate and I lose all my stuff. I try really hard but it’s never enough.

Take my hand and learn with me, We need to know more about ADHD.

I worry a lot about getting things wrong, Everything I do takes twice as long.

Everyday is exhausting for me… Looking through the fog of ADHD.

I’m often so misunderstood, I would change in a heartbeat if I could.

Take my hand and listen to me, I want to share a secret about ADHD.

I want you to know there is more to me. I’m not defined by it, you see.

I’m sensitive, kind and lots of fun. I’m blamed for things I haven’t done.

I’m the loyalist friend you’ll ever know, I just need a chance to let it show.

Take my hand and look at me, Just forget about the ADHD.

I have real feelings just like you. The love in my heart is just as true.

I may have a brain that can never rest, But please understand I’m trying my best.

I want you to know, I need you to see, I’m more than the label, I am still me!!!!